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John Wooden's Leadership Game Plan for Success - Part One

2009-10-16T06:22:00.000-07:00

This is going to be a several part series on the salient points from John Wooden's Leadership Game Plan for Success

Part One: Origins of Leadership: A Compass for Core Values

Most of John Wooden's core values came from his modest upbringings on the family farm in Centerton, Indiana. From this, Coach Wooden developed his "Compass for Core Values." Four core principles represented the four points of his Moral Compass and there are centered around ethics and attitudes. "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Character is what you really are. Reputation is what people say you are. Character is more important."
Four Navigation Points of Coach Wooden's Compass:

1. The Golden Rule - Simply treat other's the way you would have them treat you. This is based on Matthew 7:12.

2. Dad's Two Sets of Three - These were planted in each of the four boys, including Coach Wooden, from his father. The first set have to do with integrity: Never Lie - Never Cheat - Never Steal The second set have to do with how to face adversity: Don't Whine - Don't Complain - Don't make Excuses

3. The Caution against Comparisons - "Don't worry about being better than somebody else, but never cease trying to be the best that you can be. You have control over that. Not the other.

4. Dad's Seven Point Creed: A graduation gift from Coach Wooden's Father was a two-dollar bill and 3x5 card on which he had written this: Be true to yourself; Help others; Make each day your masterpiece; Drink deeply from good books - including the Good Book; Make friendship a fine art; Build a shelter against a rainy day; Pray for guidance, count and give thanks for you blessings every day.

Commentary

I very much enjoyed the process this book is presenting. From the start, you understand the foundation of Coach Wooden's philosophy of Leadership - not just leadership, but life. Seemingly, it is a combination of home spun philosophy, biblical truths and experience handed down from his father. It seems simplistic, but it is a solid of a foundation as one could ask for.

To the authors credit, he doesn't go on for pages and pages of examples to support the points being made. It is almost a minimalist approach as he writes - principle, simple explanation, supporting example of anecdote. Simple, straight-forward, concise - much like Coach Wooden.

From this foundation, the rest of the book seems to flow. Looking forward to posting the next section.

Prodigal Friendly Church and Will Your Prodigal Come Home - Jeff Lucas

2009-07-25T19:14:00.001-07:00

It has been a while since I have posted about what I have been reading - but that doesn't mean I haven't been reading! (smile)

These two books are tremendous. I first read Lucas's "Creating a Prodigal Friendly Church" and was humbled by his observations about the church of today. Using the story of the Prodigal Son, he posits the question about how receptive our churches are today to the Prodigal when they finally return home.

Tucked in his observations are some tremendous ancient cultural insights to the story of the Prodigal. Especially helpful were the understanding of the Kezakah and Keffakah.

If you would like further application of the book, I used Lucas's thoughts for a lesson you can view by clicking here. One thought that stayed with me: What would have happened if the Prodigal Son had met the Older Brother before he saw the Father? How many times has that happened in our churches?

Lucas's Second Book, "Will Your Prodigal Come Home" provided an honest asssessment of many of the children and grandchildren of people in our churches today. Lucas was helpful, but brutally honest in his assessment of Prodigals and their families. He spent alot of time discussing what a prodigal is and isn't and how you can deal with them. He also provided insight into the plight of a Christian Family and their Prodigals when they come to church. Very well done book. It too provided fodder for a great lesson which can be viewed by clicking here.

I would highly recommend both books to church leaders and parents.

Choices

2009-01-13T13:55:00.001-08:00

Just some thoughts after preaching a 17 year old's Funeral.

David Gregory Books

2008-05-19T09:48:00.000-07:00

David Gregory is a master at writing modern day parables. Here are the 3 books of his I have read:

Dinner With a Perfect Stranger
A Day With a Perfect Stranger
The Next Level - A Parable of Finding Your Place in Life.

Dinner with a Perfect Stranger is centered around a conversation Jesus has with a successful female lawyer named Nicky. Through the conversation, Jesus deals with different faiths, salvation, why does evil happen and other topics of interest. This book would be a great non-threatening evangelistic tool to give to someone who is searching.

A Day with a Perfect Stranger picks up 10 years later when Nicky's daughter is leaving to go to Art School. It focuses more on a disbelief in God, but again deals with the "why does God allow evil" question. It is not a apologetic in nature as the first book, but is very good none the less.

Both of these books have been made into DVD's. We have shown them both to the Church on Sunday evenings and they have been very very well received.

The Next Level book is the written more for a believer than was the other two. It focuses on trying to please God, serving Him out of love rather than out of duty or even selfishness. I will reread this book again to grasp some of the nuances I might have missed. It did not catch my heart as much as his previous 2 books did.

How Starbucks Saved My Life

2008-05-19T09:21:00.000-07:00

I have a terrible habit to which I must confess. Whenever I fly, I have a habit of going to the Airport Book store and buying a book I would probably never buy anywhere else and paying a price that is twice what I could get the book for at Amazon. There ... I feel much better.

Such is the story of how I purchased this book. I was on the way to Albuquerque New Mexico when I picked up this book. For those who know me, I am a sucker for anything Starbucks and this book looked interesting.

How Starbucks Saved My Life by Michael Gates Gill is a book written about Mr. Gill's life experience. He has a seemingly lucrative and successful 30 year career as an Advertising Agent but is shown the door when "downsizing" takes place. He starts his own Agency, but the clients begin to dry up. Coupled with some bad personal decisions, he finds himself loosing most all that he has grown accustomed to in his life.

Family and fortune gone, he finds himself in his favorite Starbucks when he is "jokingly" offered a job. He accepts, stunning both him and the young lady who offered the job. Thus begins his journey into a culture that he was totally oblivious to for so many years.

Here is this WASP man now working for and with a black female manager at a store staff by minorities. And the transformation begins. What is amazing is that they learn from each other. They all struggle with misconceptions, prejudices, and preconceived ideas they have had about each other's culture. It is an interesting journey with Starbucks as a background.

As a bonus, one learns a tremendous amount about company policies of Starbucks, how they take care of their employees, and the inner workings of a store. Also, you learn much about different types of coffee and what goes well with them. After reading this book, I asked for a "Coffee Passport" at my local Starbucks and they gave me one!

This book is well written and shows how people from different ages, backgrounds and cultures can work through to help each other clearing up misconceptions.

I would encourage anyone - especially Starbucks aficionados - to read this book. I really enjoyed it!

A Quest for Answers: The DaVinci Code

2006-04-29T19:16:00.000-07:00

In just a few days the movie, "The DaVinci Code" will be drawing millions to the movie theater. This movie, based on the same titled book, is a fictional best seller that weaves an incredible story of deceit, murder and intrigue about a secret society that has been given the task of keeping secret, shocking and priceless relic.

Many people have wondered, "It the DaVinci Code Real?; Is it Historically Accurate?" The answer is yes - and no. Yes, there are historical people and groups that actually lived mentioned in this book - just as there was actually a New York City and Empire State Building in the movie King Kong. But much of what is presented as fact is simply historically inaccurate. Be that as it may, the DaVinci Code is a great book - but it is a book of fiction.

Josh McDowell in the book, "A Quest for Answers: The DaVinci Code" tells a story of three college students who begin to read the book, "The DaVinci Code" and begin to research some of the historical claims of the book. McDowell writes this book in novel format, but it is heavily footnoted for those who would like to further study the claims the book makes.

If you would like to view an Adobe PDF File of the first chapter, you can click here. If you would like to order a copy of the book, you can click here.

Here is another link to more information about a Believers Response to the "DaVinci Code."

Blue Like Jazz

2006-04-26T07:47:00.000-07:00

It has been a while since I have "blogged" on what I was reading. Not that I wasn't reading - just too busy to sit down and write about it. I thought it was time to change that - so here we go.

While writing my Doctoral Dissertation a couple of years ago - I discovered there were people that didn't think like me ... I am not talking about agreeing with me ... but the didn't process information like I did - didn't view reality like I did - didn't even view a relationship with Christ the way I did. I think a little background is in order here.

I was raised by very godly parents - they taught me how to love, taught me how to treat people and taught me how to think - how to reason. It was all very logical - for my father is an analytical engineer - smart too - brilliant actually - he is a rocket scientist. I was raised to think - reason - analyze - weigh out options - black/white - very quantifiable - very empirical. And I love that ... I love bulleted lists - I love precision - I love finding solutions to difficult problems.

And in a sense - that is what Jesus is to me - A solution to a difficult problem. Sin separated me from God and Jesus provided a solution to this relational problem. Big problem - great solution. Makes sense.

But as I began to research my Dissertation - I found that most people didn't see the world or God as I did. It wasn't so clear cut - the "reasoned bulleted convincing arguments" didn't work. It was if I was speaking a totally different language than they were.

So - I have been doing what I have always done - I have been analyzing the situation. (stop laughing) I want to know how to communicate with these people. I want to understand what "makes them tick."

At first I thought they were nuts. Sloppy - messy - artsy/fartsy kind of people - but now I have come to appreciate them for what they are. They are the artist to my engineer. They are the color to my black and white.

They love the same God as I do - but express that love in such different ways - worship Him in such different ways - ways that don't ring my bell - but I do think it rings God's Bell. Actually - I think my of loving and worshipping Him does too - God has a great capacity to receive all kinds of expressions of love from His Children.

Which brings me to this book - Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller.

Donald Miller is a guy that loves the Lord in an incredible way. This book chronicles many of his thoughts and experiences about people and God.

As I read it – it seemed like a meandering journey – but one that I truly enjoyed and appreciated greatly. In addition – he sees things in a way that I do not – which is marvelous!

It is clear that he has an incredible love for Jesus – and so do I – but we have arrived there in incredibly divergent paths – and we both have something to learn from the others journey.

I have learned to appreciate the journeys, experiences and biblical applicative insights from this book. He writes honestly about his struggles with faith, the church, right-wing politics and especially religion. But what is amazing is that he doesn’t “gloss over” these struggles with religious jargon or clichés. And in the struggles – you gain insight to his soul – and insight to your own.

There are some things in this book that make me uneasy – but to dismiss the insights because of those would be incredibly prejudiced – even judgmental. But still …

I would highly recommend this book to have both a greater understanding of a way of postmodern religious reasoning – and to see journeys to God that are filled with incredibly poignant truths.

Velvet Elvis - Rob Bell

2006-04-25T19:01:00.000-07:00

Velvet Elvis by Rob Bell is a very interesting and entertaining read. There are many insights that I picked up from this book - particularly those of the Jewish Culture during the time of Jesus. From Bell's insights on the Jewish Culture, Rabbis and Tamildin - the calling of the Disciples by Jesus took on a much deeper and fuller meaning.

However, there are points where Bell stretches my comfort zone with his view of Scripture. His points of questioning whether there is a "constant right" interpretation of scripture troubles me. Even though there are cultural and traditional influences and insights, there is still places where the scripture is clear. While insights might add color, there are still some black and white issues of right and wrong in scripture that cross cultural, generational and geographic lines.

Additionally, I am troubled at some acceptance of habits that would be stumbling blocks in the culture that I live. While as Christians there is freedom, there are times when you don't exercise that freedom because it would be a stumbling block to either new believers or even unbelievers. Again - that is my culture - and Rob Bell does not live in my culture.

I would recommend this book to mature Christian who could filter it though his understanding of his faith and the culture in which he lives his faith out.

How To Ruin Your LIfe - Ben Stein

2005-03-04T19:21:00.000-08:00

Ok. I admit it. I am a big Ben Stein fan. My first exposure to him was in Ferris Bueller's Day Off where he played the role of an American History teacher - it still makes me smile when I think of, Beuller Beuller Beuller.. (Thanks Chad). Steins part of the boring teacher in Ferris Bueller's Day Off was recently ranked as one of the fifty most famous scenes in American film.

It was only later that I found out that he was an incredibly diverse man. He was a speech writer for both President Nixon and President Ford. I then began reading Monday Night at Mortons articles published on E-Online. I have enjoyed his wit and insight on many levels and will continue to read most anything he writes.

His book, How to Ruin Your Life is a great example of his sarcastic wit. Publishers Weekly says, "Keeping a Chin Up Offering a tongue-in-cheek approach to living well, quiz show host and former White House speechwriter Ben Stein has written How to Ruin Your Life. Asserting that "failure is often a virtual road map to success in reverse," Stein tells readers, "[f]ollow these rules and you're guaranteed disaster. Avoid them, and you're on the high road to achievement...." He proceeds to explain how to "make yourself useless," "be a slob," "convince yourself you're all that matters" and "act like the world owes you." If ignored, his advice is sound and realistic, and may be the perfect way to push recent grads or other impressionable readers in the right direction."

This book will make great reading for teenagers who have all the answers to life. Adults who read it will laugh - sometimes with embarrassment - at some of the insights Stein offers.

How to Ruin Your Life is a powerful self-help tool in the form of a work of humor. It is sardonic advice, presented in a tongue-in-cheek style, explaining how people can "ruin" their lives. Topics include essays such as "Convince Yourself That Youre The Center of the Universe," "Think The Worst of Everyone," and "You Can Change People."

I thought I would type in one of his 35 lessons as a sample:

Number 27 - Dont Clean Up After Yourself.

Throw away the apron. I know I've mentioned it before, bit it is worth repeating: You are a perfect being whom others are supposed to clean up after. Just leave your dirty dishes and pots and pans lying around the house. Someone will clean it all up, even if you live alone. Leave your dirty clothes on the floor. Thats not your job. You aren't a day worker in a plantation house. You have things to do, worlds to conquer. Look, you've seen Star Wars! Did Luke Skywalker or Han Solo go around doing laundry and folding clothes after ironing? Did either one of them clean the floors after Chewbacca had an accident? Now, it is true that in Gone With the Wind, Scarlett did lower herself to do some cleaning. But that was only meant to show you how bad things had gotten. When things got better, she had servants to do the dirty work for her.

So freaking what if people complain you are a slob? You don't live to please others! You live to please yourself, plain and simple! So get down and boogie, and let somebody else clean it all up. And if it gets too awful where you live because it is starting to look and smell like a pigsty, just move someplace else (but make sure you leave your place a complete mess for the next tenant.)

This also applies to emotional and financial messes. So what if you promised to love a man and he gave up his job and moved across the country to be with you? If you get tired of him, just cut him off without even a phone call. So what if you encouraged your partner to borrow money to start a business you were going to work with him on? If you changed your mind, that is his problem! You don't have to clean up the messes you have made. That is for the little people.

Your job in life is to please yourself moment by moment. I don't think that includes going around with a mop or dustpan, whether real or figurative. Make any mess you want, and then go merrily on your way. It is your right.

I have given this book on a couple of occasions to kids who thought the world truly did revolve around them - and to their credit - with a sly grin - they got the message. With this book - it is difficult not to.

This is not a Biblical Book - but it does teach biblical truths - in an effectively sarcastic way. This is a book that will stay on my shelf - and at some point - find its way into Joseph's and Nathan's (my sons) hands.

Upcoming Books I WIll Read

2005-02-25T06:23:00.000-08:00

Well - my reading drought is over. My thirst has returned. It is time to start a disciplined reading program again.

Here is what I will be reading over the next few weeks. Some are leftovers from my previous list - some are new - but all will be read and commented on. Will you join me?

Here is the list

1. Exquisite Agony - Gene Edwards
2. I Flunked Sunday School - Ken Bailey
3. How to Ruin Your Life - Ben Stein
4. Hearing the Master's Voice - Robert Jeffress
5. Healing for the Hurting Heart - June Hunt
6. The American Prophecies - Michael Evans
7. The Politically Incorrect Guide to American History - Thomas E. Woods Jr.

By the way - I have learned that I can save money by purchasing some books on Amazon - but purchasing them used. This is especially true of books that have been out a couple of years.

Remember - one who does not read has no advantage over the person who cannot read!

The 1 Thing - What Everyone Craves - That Your Church Can Deliver - Thom Schultz

2004-11-28T21:11:00.000-08:00

The 1 Thing - What Everyone Craves - That Your Church Can Deliver

I enjoyed reading this book. The authors take the story of Mary and Martha and arrive at the book's thesis: What people want - what God wants - is a close, loving, trusting relationship between God and individuals.

"Luke, through his writing, plops us down in Mary and Martha's house. We get to witness what happens and we come away with a clear understanding of what is most important to Jesus. What would happen if we had plopped down in most churches today? What would we perceive? What would seem most important in the church? Would the 1 thing - an absolutely unmistakable emphasis on growing relationships with Jesus - shine through immediately? Or would well meaning but less important stuff distract from the 1 thing?" pg 22-23

The author then challenges us to develop a friendship with Jesus. "We make friends with Jesus much as we make friends with other people." Qualities of human friendships can provide an example for a relationship with the Lord.

He then offers this "Friendship Filter" for reordering a churches ministry priorities. Which option will best induce and enhance relationship - with other and with Jesus? If you were trying to grow a warm, human relationship using of of these options, which one would you use? Which option best creates a fireside ambiance - a setting that invites relationship building? Which option will telegraph to the world that building close relationship with Jesus Christ is a top priority here?

He then looks at how churches may appear to those who come from an unchurched culture. First - the Police Department - "The police department enforces the law. It makes sure people follow a long list of do's and don'ts. When lawmakers write new laws, the police officers stand on the front line to ensure the publics obedience."

Next the Theater - It is largely a spectator event - the action takes place on the stage - most shows are highly scripted, rehearsed and predictable - Stars provide box office draw. And what is the key objective to the Theater? To fill seats.

Then the Mortuary - Churches that are solemn - serious - certainly not fun.

Next the Seminary - Pastor Lectures - Students take notes and pour over texts - Facts get memorized - Papers get scored - and placement offices scatter the learned throughout the land.

In chapter Ten - the author begins to develop his idea of what church ought to be. "Since The 1 Thing is a relationship, let's look at the process of developing a friendship. we can think of four simple parts of that process: 1) Introduce Yourself 2) Go Someplace Inviting 3) Make Conversation 4) Do Stuff Together. These steps towards friendship can lead to lifelong commitment."

Again, I think this author has something to say. Many of us have learned how to "Fit in" at church - even if we go to a new one - we can adapt to the "game." But how many people come in our doors searching for something - a relationship with God. But they will never meet Him - until they meet us. Perhaps if we concentrate on fostering a relationship with them - they will foster a relationship with Christ.

The Six Fundamentals of Success: The Rules for Getting It Right For Yourself and Your Organization - Stuart Levine

2004-11-17T09:06:00.000-08:00

The Six Fundementals of Success - Stuart Levine

I enjoyed reading this book. They were many basic practical words of advice about how to be successful in every area of life.

Levine builds around these six fundementals:

Fundemental #1 - Make Sure You Add Value
Fundemental #2 - Communicate Up and Down, Inside and Out
Fundemental #3 - Know How To Deliver Results
Fundemental #4 - Conduct Yourself and Your Buisiness with Integrity
Fundemental #5 - Invest in Relationships
Fundemental #6 - Gain Perspective

For someone who is experienced in business or leadership, much of this book would be pedantic. However, it is still good to be reminded of some of the most basic practices that lead to adding value to your business.

This book would be of great value to an up and coming leadership prospect or new business owner. He organizes his thoughts in a plain progressive manner. This book can be read in probably an hour to an hour and a half - but implementing all this book has to offer can take a lifetime. The sooner one learns and implements these priciples, the better off they would be.

Enjoyable read - but primarily for new leaders and business leaders.

Leadership Wisdom from Unlikely Voices - Dave Fleming

2004-11-17T08:51:00.000-08:00

Leadership Wisdom from Unlikely Voices - Dave Fleming

I have always loved reading leadership books. And, over the last 18 months, I have tried to learn more about the Postmodern Movement, mode of thinking and how it applies to Church. Soooo .... when I saw this leadership book written from a postmodern perspective - I thought - "Brilliant!"

Was I disappointed. Perhaps this book would resonate with someone with a postmodern perspective - but I became increasingly frustrated with the "herky-jerkiness" of the book. There were some good thoughts - but no logical progression. (That is my modern mind showing through I fear)

In the second chapter, Fleming tells of falling asleep while driving his car - traveling several miles of twists and turns before awkening in a fog. About half-way through the book - I thought he might have fallen asleep at his keyboard - navigated his way through a few chapters - and left me in a fog!

Again - this may not be the fault of the author. It may resonate with younger leaders in the postmodern movement. If so, that is great. But to me - well - I guess I am old - modern - and just don't get it. (smile)

Let me know if you come to different conclusions after you read this book.

The Radical Leap - Steve Farber

2004-11-11T01:51:00.000-08:00

The Radical Leap - Steve Farber

I have always loved reading leadership books. Over the last few years, some authors have adopted one of the teaching methods of Jesus. When He wanted to teach profound truths to people - Jesus told stories. Many business books today are doing the same thing. They tell stories to communicate business and leadership principles.

Steve Farber's book The Radical Leap is one such book.

The book is centered on the acronym: L.E.A.P. Four words describe leadership: Love - Energy - Audacity - Proof.

I will not give the story away but I do think there are some quotes from the book that are well worth sharing.

The difference between a madman and a professional is that a professional does as well as he can with what he has set out to do and a madman does exceptionally well at what he cant help doing.

I underlined this quote in the book. (Always read a book with pen or pencil in hand - make notes - underline - you never know when you will want to go back and review what you has determined is meaningful.) Then I asked myself this question: As Pastor of a church - am I doing a good job - or do I have such a passion for the work that I am the madman that cant help doing what he loves so much? That is the Love - of the L.E.A.P. You cannot lead if you do not love.

I would hope that you have the fortune to do your work because you cannot help but not do it. I cannot help but do what I have been called - chosen - wired to do. I have to do it. I love it. If it means I am nuts - then so be it. I hope you are able to do that at your job - at your calling.

Love generates Energy - inspires Audacity and requires Proof. LEAP is simply the Extreme Leaders active, dynamic expression of love.

Of course - in all leadership books - one has to talk about vision. And vision statements.

A vision statement does not generate energy, love does, great ideas do, principles and values do. A vision statement that comes from a workshop exercise is usually about as energizing and memorable as a saltine cracker.

But vision from the heart is - by definition - an expression of love. And not only is that more energizing, it is energy.

How many times has a company - or a church - concocted a vision statement - put it on a wall and thought it was going to change the world? Vision from the heart changes things.

However, I think my favorite quote from the book is: If you keep reminding yourself and others about the importance of your work, about the great future you are striving to create, you will generate the energy you need to work through any obstacle and challenge. Your energy will be contagious to others. That is leadership.

The book is not written to the church - but I can think of no more important work that what God has called the church - and every believer - to. We have been called to change the world. What we do impacts eternity. I think we need to be reminded of that - repeatedly.

I think as Pastor - I need to constantly remind each believer about the importance of the work we have been called to do. That is the nugget I took from this book.

Be forewarned - this book has some coarse language in places. But all in all - this book spoke to my heart about communicating the passion that is in my heart for the work that I do. Communicating that passion to the people I work beside. Communicating that passion to the people I have the privilege of leading.

Let me know if you read this book!

The People Skills of Jesus - Willian Beausay

2004-11-05T01:34:00.000-08:00

The People Skills of Jesus - William Beausay

There are many books published today designed to help people learn more about Jesus. However, most of them are exegetical in nature – in essence, they take what the Bible has to say and translate that information into a modern setting. The People Skills of Jesus by William Beausay, II is a different type of book. The author does refer to biblical passages; however, for the majority of the book, it is as if he read the passage of Scripture, closed his eyes and imagined what Jesus did, how He did it, and how He dealt with people. From that point, Beaseay then develops principles to apply to most any relationship. His principles do not necessarily come from biblical passages, yet they do not violate any biblical passages either.

This book is not a “scholarly” work that will speak to the reader who enjoys the intricate nuances of Greek interpretation, but rather is a fresh approach to biblical material that many have heard before.

One such instance is the chapter entitled Finding the Handles. In this chapter, Beausay notes that Jesus skillfully used something that people were doing as a bridge to make a connection. He lists as examples Peter and Andrew, the fishermen, when Jesus said, “Follow Me and I will make you fishers of men.” To the woman at the well, Jesus said, “Whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst.” Beausay concludes that finding people’s handles is no more difficult than watching what people are doing, and then taking to them about it. Be on the lookout for opportunities to bridge to others by using the events they are involved with every moment. He continues, “If they look exhausted, talk about fatigue and offer them rest. If they seem upbeat, talk about how excitement improves the atmosphere. If they are involved in a ‘scut’ project, talk about rising above nasty work. Whatever people are doing right now is a conduit for influence for communication and influence.” Again, this is not exegetical work, rather observations using a sanctified imagination.

Another chapter that caught the eye of the author of this paper was entitled, Ugly People. This chapter dealt with the issue of how people react to people who are outside a comfort zone. Again, in one of the more descriptive paragraphs in the book, Beausay describes some of the people that Jesus came into daily contact with. Using as examples beggars, lepers, corpses, and four thousand men who only occasionally bathe, he imagines the barriers that their appearance, odors, and physical disposition might offer. Beausay then translates that into modern day by challenging his readers to be like Jesus. He bridges from then to now by stating that there may not be people around us who are physically scarred, but that there are people who are socially stigmatized and forgotten. He challenges his readers to “talk to the outcasts, befriend the lonely – there are plenty around.”

Each chapter deals with another aspect of Jesus’ treatment of people. In the chapter, What’s Important, he deals with Mary, Martha, and Jesus and concludes, “What looks important often really isn’t.” In another chapter, Artfully Evasive, he deals with the way Jesus often gave evasive answers to probing questions for specific reasons. In professional relationships, he challenges his readers to keep in mind their “swots”: strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats.

Every chapter held a nugget of truth. This book artfully gives insights on relationships with people. This book is well worth reading if one is looking for insights into improving relations with people, although it might have been helpful to tie each chapter to a Proverb that would reinforce the lessons learned.

A New Kind of Christian - Brian McLaren

2004-11-04T18:52:00.000-08:00

A New Kind of Christian - A Tale of Two Friends on a Spiritual Journey - Brian McLaren

Over the last two years, I have read many books dealing with Postmodernism and the Church. Some have been very philosophical – some have been “I found it – you need to – or your church will die ... tomorrow” – but none have done a better job of explaining a postmodern mindset of Christianity than this book.

McLaren weaves a story about Daniel – a disillusioned pastor and Neo – a Science Teacher from the local high school. Through this story – the conversations – emails and phone calls – McLaren about postmodernism. He does not do this from a sociological, philosophical or even religious viewpoint – although all three are dealt with thoroughly – he deals with postmodernism as a historical shift in humanity’s journey.

There is no way I can encapsulate this book into book review form – but I will say that I was enlightened, challenged, encouraged and a bit terrified by this book. It does challenge parts of my theology -- greatly. It is more soft and fuzzy than concise and clean angled.

However, as I finished the book – one thought came to mind. Often times Christianity is something that we do. We mature in Christ by doing these things: church attendance, tithing, sharing our faith, reading our Bibles, etc. But what Neo seemed to be communicating was that Christianity is more about being – who we are – that leads to the right deeds. Again – I am still pondering this book – and will for some time.

I would have difficulty in recommending this book to a new Believer. However, I do think that those who are steadfast in their faith – but seek to communicate how people can connect with God to a new generation – would benefit greatly by reading this book.

Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make - Hans Finzel

2004-11-04T11:37:00.000-08:00

The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make - Hans Finzel

The story is told of the college football coach called practice to a halt to "chew out" one of his big freshmen tackles for making a stupid play. Head bowed, the big tackle stood in silence as the coach called him every kind of name, topping off the blast with, "What's your IQ anyway?" Startled, the tackle looked up, thought for a moment, and then answered, "20-20."

Many leaders could avert “stupid plays” if they would take some time and read The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make by Hans Finzel. Finzel states his purpose for writing this book as to help people who find themselves called to lead and are a bit apprehensive about blowing it. He states that the average leader faces at least five problems in learning how to lead. First, leaders often replicate the poor leadership habits they have observed in others. Second, leaders often lack basic skills for common leadership demands. Third, leaders lack good models and mentoring. Fourth, today’s leaders lack formal training in leadership. Fifth, today’s leaders suffer confusion over the conflict between secular and biblical leadership value.

Finzel then takes ten chapters, delineates ten different mistakes, and offers solutions for each. The first mistake, labeled as the number one leadership hang-up, is the top-down attitude. He states this even more convincingly when he writes, “I believe the number one leadership sin is that of top-down attitude autocratic arrogance.” This top-down approach to leadership is based on the military model of barking orders to weak underlings. This approach shows up with abusive authority, lack of listening, dictatorship in decision making, and an egocentric manner.

Finzel offers five reasons to why this style of leadership is most prevalent. First, it is traditional. Second, it is the most common. Third, It is the easiest. Fourth, it comes naturally. Fifth, it reflects the depravity of man. He then offers alternatives to this leadership style, the most appealing is the style of servant leadership. Finzel states that the key of servant leadership is to focus on others.

The second mistake that Finzel deals with is that of putting paperwork before peoplework. He observes the greater the leadership role, the less time there seems to be for people, and the more important peoplework is. He reminds his readers to remember that people are opportunities, not interruptions.

The third mistake is the absence of affirmation. Finzel reminds his readers that everyone thrives on affirmation and praise and that leadership has as much to do with relationships as with getting things done. He then challenges aspiring leaders to learn to read to varying levels of affirmation that those one leads needs.

Dealing with mavericks is the next mistake Finzel covers. He reminds his readers that mavericks often save organizations from the slide toward institutionalism. He also observes that most large organizations will ‘kill off’ mavericks before they can take root. He then challenges leaders to learn to recognize truly useful mavericks.

The fifth mistake Finzel addresses is that of dictatorship in decision making. He challenges leaders to move past the I know all the answers” attitude that stifles the value of individuals. In this chapter, Finzel contends the one who does the job should decide how the job should be done. In Finzel’s opinion, ‘flat’ organizations are the model of the future. Finzel concludes this chapter by saying, “When the best leader’s work is done, the people will say, ‘We did it ourselves!’”

Finzel then deals with the issue of delegation. Finzel observes that nothing frustrates those who work for the leader more than sloppy delegation. He states that there are several reason leaders do not delegate: fear of losing authority, fear of work being done poorly, fear of work being done better, unwillingness to take the necessary time, fear of depending on others, and lack of training and positive experience. Finzel offers five essential ingredients for clean delegation. First, faith in the one to whom you delegate. Second, release from the desire to do it better yourself. Third, relaxation from the obsession that it has to be done the leaders way. Fourth, patience in the desire to do it faster oneself. Finally, vision to develop others with ones delegation freedom.

Finzel labels the seventh mistake as communication chaos. He states that communication must be that passionate obsession of effective leadership. He observes the bigger the group, the more attention must be given to communication and when left uninformed, people tend to dream up wild rumors.

In the eighth chapter, Finzel deals with the mistake of missing the clues of corporate culture. He defines corporate culture as “the way insiders behave based on the values and group tradition they hold. Finzel offers six suggestions to deal with this conflict when it arises. First, as a leader, listen to win. Second, an effective leader will love diversity. Third, continually look for unity. Fourth, learn to like those who are different. Fifth, learn to separate methodology form theology. Finally, long for God’s Glory.

Finzel, in the ninth chapter, discusses the issue of mentorship. In essence, Finzel educates leaders how to prepare to transition leadership to another. He states that leaders make two common mistakes. Leaders tend to stay too long in a position rather than not long enough and leaders who stay too long do much more damage than those who do not stay long enough do.

In the final chapter, Finzel states that many leaders fail to focus enough on the future. It should be the chief preoccupation of the leader to provide vision.

The effectiveness of this book is based on the practical application that Finzel provides for each issue he raises. Not only does he effectively identify the problem, but he also provides direction to avoid the mistakes before they arrive. At the close of each chapter, Finzel provides “Powerpoints” which provide concrete actions to alleviate or avoid each of the ten common mistakes identified.

An additional distinction of Finzel’s book is the Biblical principles he alludes to throughout his writing. This is especially appealing to pastors and leadership in churches. Each of the mistakes Finzel identifies is also prevalent in churches and is not exclusive to the business world. As a pastor, the writer of this paper appreciated the insight and frankness of Finzel’s book.

This is a book that could be recommended to any leader, church or business, novice or experienced, or laymen or professional. It has a tremendous amount to offer each reader.

Come Thirsty - Max Lucado

2004-10-30T20:56:00.000-07:00

Come Thirsty - No Heart Too Dry for His Touch
Max Lucado

I have always enjoyed Max Lucado books. He is a master at telling stories that illustrate biblical truths. One more than one occasion, I have "lifted" an illustrative story to drive home biblical truths as I preach.

This book is built around the following outline:

"Drink with me from his bottomless well. You don't have to live with a dehydrated heart.
Receive Christ's Work on the Cross,
the energy of His Spirit,
His lordship over your life,
His unending, unfailing love.

My favorite part of the book was the closing chapter in which Lucado writes a chapter, "If God Wrote You a Letter." He then bases a letter from God to each reader that is very interesting. He traces Scriptural truths throughout the letter centered on the above outline. It really is powerful.

I would encourage this book for a new believer that is struggling in their walk with God. Lucado does a very good job of clarifying how God is "for" you rather than some God above who is constantly critically scrutinizing people. It focuses on the resources and work that God has provided - the same resources and work that we try and accomplish even though God has completed the work.

This also is a good book for a believer who is trying to gain God's approval through human efforts. Lucado systematically illustrates God's Love and Provisions He provides for His children. They arent earned or deserved - but are gifts - completed gifts - that have already been given.

Lucado also deals with issues such as fear, worry, and guilt in such ways that touch both head and heart. Something that Lucado is masterful at doing.

I enjoyed this book greatly. If you read it - let me know your favorite part!

What Books Are Next - November

2004-10-30T13:54:00.000-07:00

Here is my reading list for November. I will be reporting on these books in the next few weeks.

Come Thirsty: No Heart Too Dry For His Touch - Max Lucado
A New Kind of Christian: A Tale of Two Friends on a Spiritual Journey - Brian McLaren
The Day I Was Crucified as Told by Jesus Christ - Gene Edwards
Know Fear: Facing Life's Six Most Common Phobias - Ed Young Jr.
Getting Through the Tough Stuff - Charles R. Swindoll
Feeding Your Appetites: Take Control of What's Controlling You! - Stephen Arterburn
Tender Warrior: God's Intention for a Man - Stu Weber
Every Man, God's Man: Courageous Faith and Daily Integrity - Stephen Arterburn
Letters to a Devestated Christian: Healing for the Brokenhearted - Gene Edwards
Exquisite Agony - Gene Edwards

Each Day I am also reading a chapter from A Godward Life - John Piper

By the way, I have taken advantage of ordering many books from Amazon - but using the "Used Book" option found on each selection. I have saved some major money using this option and have had no problems at all.

If you have any suggestions for other books - leave a comment and I will check it out.

Book Review: Emerging Worship by Dan Kimball

2004-10-19T15:24:00.000-07:00

Emerging Worship - Dan Kimball

One of the things we do each week at Staff Meeting is read a chapter or two of a book and talk about it as a Staff. The book we have just completed was this book. This is a book that discusses worship for postmoderns ... or POMO's. I am sure they love that designation.

I am challenged and disturbed by this book all at the same time. This book talks about styles of worship that almost make no sense to me ... but at the same time ... I realize that not everybody is like me. (And all God's People said .... Amen)

I think this book sheds light on worship styles that are emerging in churches that are striving to reach the postmodern population around them. The styles of worship described in this book seem very "touch feely" to me ... but that doesn't mean they are invalid ... they just don't float my boat.

At one point early in the book Kimball writes, "I understand that for some people, this type of rethinking is extremely difficult. Anyone used to doing ministry - and thinking of church and worship services - in a modern way will find it hard to grasp new ways to engage the postmodern culture." pg 16. In the margin, I wrote a big, "That's Me!" Still - much of what Kimball wrote looked like small group study than that of a large worship setting.

This book made me feel old and out of touch at time. It was much like reading a missionary's book to a foreign land. At the same time, it was a challenge to me - for I realize that there are some with this mindset that attend Bayshore now. Please understand - the Bay Area we live in is not - I repeat - NOT - a hot bed of postmodern thinking. (smile) But I still should strive to understand the thinking and reasoning behind this movement. It is difficult - for I am very modern - logical in my reasoning and thinking.

What has been helpful in this book is that it forces me (and the staff) to wrestle with some of the questions that Kimball raises about worship. Also it does a fairly good job of contrasting post modern thinking about church with more modern or traditional view.

There are times though that he comes off as condescending when comparing the two. There were moments when reading the book that I thought he felt he found "it" and if you didn't find "it" you weren't going to be able to reach anybody for the next 30 years. That may be more of an indicator about me than it was about his writing.

Again - much of what he describes as worship does not appeal to me ... but that does not mean that I cannot learn from it. I did learn things from this book. It challenged me to rethink some of the news ways people are striving to "connect" with God.

I think it would be wise for anyone in vocational ministry to read this book.

Chapter Six: How Churches Help to Raise Spiritual Champions

2004-10-18T14:52:00.000-07:00

Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions
Chapter Six: How Churches Help to Raise Spiritual Champions

This was a magnificent chapter – one of the most challenging to me as a Pastor.

I really liked how Barna differentiated between change and transformation in the lives of people. While he addressed this to children, it could be applied to all people. “Change is a shift that may or may not last, tends to happen at a discrete and identifiable moment in time and is often incremental in nature – almost imperceptible in many cases. Transformation, however, is an enduring process in which the person is radically reformed and does not revert to his or her precious condition. The distinction is monumental, because transformation is Spirit driven which change is program driven. Transformation is facilitated but unpredictable, and change is caused and inevitable under the right conditions and stimuli. The most effective churches recognize that the goal is to facilitate transformation, yet they understand they cannot engineer it no matter how sincere, professional, comprehensive and biblical their approach may be. Only God brings about lasting transformation in a persons life.” pg 97-98

Question: Have we as believers in general accepted “change” rather than “transformation” as an indicator of a person inviting Christ into their lives?
Does “change” become “transformation” if the change is permanent?
Can “change” be the outworking of an inward “transformation?”

Most of these questions look more to adult conduct of public professions of faith rather than that of children’s ministry …. But still good questions to ask.

Barna again reiterates the importance of the church and family partnering for effective children’s ministry. “One of the key elements of that ministry philosophy is the acknowledgement that the spiritual development of children is first and foremost the responsibility of the parents and that a church is best poised to assist rather than lead in the process.” pg 98 A churches goal should be to become the greatest friend and best support a parent ever had.

Barna suggests that you can define success in a children’s ministry by three criteria:

There is widespread involvement of the parents in the spiritual development of the children.
The church is strategically equipping parents to help children develop spiritually.
These are transformations in children lives – not the mere recitation of facts, but lifestyle transitions that suggest a deeper renovation of the heart and spirit.

I also like Barna’s “Five Streams of Prayer Offered to God”

Prayer from Teachers about the youngsters
Teachers Praying as a Team
Intercessors praying for Children and Teachers
Entire Congregation praying for Children’s Ministry
Parents praying for their children and teachers.

Barna also observed the effective ministries tend to provide three important elements in balance:

Ministries convey important information and lessons in what the student relates to
Ministries are keenly responsive to the adult-child ratio in their activities.
Ministries balance activities done in small groups with those done in a large group setting.

I think this is incredible information to digest. In January we are going to be moving into a brand new children’s building. This is a great opportunity to reevaluate many area of our children’s ministry and it’s effectiveness. Especially, how the church relates to the efforts to teach and train our children.

As Pastor, I have much to ponder in this area.

Book Review: The Divine Romance by Gene Edwards

2004-10-18T10:57:00.000-07:00

I have just finished reading The Divine Romance by Gene Edwards. The book is intriguing - however, I enjoyed The Prisoner in the Third Cell and The Tale of Three Kings better.

Here is a description of the book, "The most beautiful love story ever told! A book of power, beauty and grandeur. Rarely has a piece of Christian literature combined the simplicity of the storytelling art with the profound depths of the Christian faith. In this sweeping saga, spanning from eternity to eternity, you will discover some of the deepest riches afforded the believer. Like some mighty symphony, here is a majestic rendition of the love of God.
Behold the story of the Crucifixion and Resurrection as it has never been presented... from the view of angels! Be there when rising from the dead, the Lord brings forth his beautiful bride. The story concludes at the consummation of the ages, when a victorious Lord takes his bride to himself. This truly is the greatest love story ever told."

Edwards does an interesting job in tracing a thread through the Creation of Eve from Adam through the creation of a people and nation, to God's Creating a Bride for Himself through Jesus Christ. It may just be a reflection of my personality, but at times I was uncomfortable with the level of anthropomorphic allegories Edwards attributed to God and His desire for a Bride. It was very well written and incredibly insightful.

What Edwards is masterful at is taking the written text of God's Word and imagining what was left unwritten. And while doing that, not violating any of the written text. His insights of what might have been are amazing. However, one must be very careful not to equate this with the written text of God's Word.

The next Edward's book I will read is, The Day Christ Was Crucified.

Book Review: The Lost Choice - Andy Andrews

2004-10-15T10:43:00.000-07:00

Book Review: The Lost Choice by Andy Andrews

One of the skills I wish to impress on my boys, Joseph and Nathan, is the skill of lifelong reading. I have said before, "A person who does not read has no advantage of a man who cannot read." While Nathan is still a bit young, Joseph and I read books together from time to time.

I just finishing reading this book and will Joseph will be starting it soon. It is a great book which intertwines history and its story through its pages.

Here is a brief description of the book:

In their Denver suburb, journalist Dorry Chandler and her detective husband, Mark, discover a strange object bearing a message etched in an ancient language. Joining forces with anthropologist Dylan Langford and his archaeologist girlfriend, Abby Warner, the team is enthralled by the mysterious artifact and its baffling message that appears to date back thousands of years.

Uncovering a trail of clues, the anticipation builds as each piece of evidence sheds additional light on the objects significance. The Chandlers may have unearthed a fragment of one of the most profound relics in mankinds historyand the key to understanding the extraordinary achievements of esteemed men and women throughout time.

Will the team discover the secret behind this mysterious historical object? Or will its message be lost forever?

From the author of the New York Times bestseller The Travelers Gift comes a gripping quest to uncover mankinds destiny. Elegantly blending riveting fiction, extensive research, and a powerful message of hope, The Lost Choice illuminates the timeless principles for transforming the world.

Are you ready to make the personal discovery of a lifetime?

I would recommend this book for anyone over 10-12 years of age. It is a good read. My only question is that who historical accuracy about the individual hisitorical figures it referances.

Supplemental Post - Article - Your Kids Need You

2004-10-14T23:57:00.000-07:00

I ran across this article and thought that it fit in well as a supplement to Barna's Book - Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions. I thought I would post it for you to see.

Your kids need you
by Rebecca Hagelin

The apple whizzed by her head so fast you could barely see it. Not to be outdone by her brother, Kristin grabbed a particularly putrid rotting apple from the ground and lobbed it at Drew with the greatest of delight. Ah, these are the moments family memories are made of!

It was a perfect crisp fall day accentuated by a cloudless sky of the clearest blue. We drove about 90 minutes from our home in DC to the beautiful Virginia countryside to pick apples. Along for the adventure was our “son” (ok, not really our son, but we love him like one), Michael; our two teen boys, Drew and Nick; and our 12-year-old daughter, Kristin. My husband and I had been planning the trip for several days anticipating family time filled with the simple pleasures in life. We were not disappointed.

When you take three teenage boys and one younger sister on a road trip you’ve got to make a conscious decision in advance that you are going to have a great time filled with the joys of teen-male antics – if you don’t, you’re likely to go stark raving mad. It’s also helpful if the little sister is a tough little cookie. Our group has spent many hours of togetherness in the family van on such jaunts and everyone sort of figured out their roles, mischievous tricks, defensive measures, and counter-attacks long ago. As my once-little children continue to grow older and taller and more occupied with their own activities and friends, I’ve come to relish such adventures.

How many more fall days are there for us to be together? It breaks my heart to realize that there’s only what is left of this season and then just one more autumn for us to enjoy as a family. Drew is a junior in high school and will be headed off to college much too soon, only to be followed by Nick and Michael the next year. I’m learning the hard way – and as so many parents before me have – that childhood is fleeting.

In today’s incredibly busy, media-saturated world I find it is ever more difficult to carve out time for our family to spend together. Even arranging family dinners can be a “hassle” – and sometimes, you get “hassled” a bit by teens who think they’re too mature for such togetherness. But coordinating schedules, turning off the tube, pushing other activities and homework aside, letting the dirty laundry sit, and ignoring all the other distractions of life that often rob us of the opportunity to be together are not only worth the effort, shutting out the world and concentrating on family is an essential element in producing healthy, happy kids.

The world has become a dangerous place for children. There’s terrorism at home and war abroad to worry about. And so many negative influences attack their sensibilities every day that the only way they’re going to find their way is if parents take the time to show them. Teaching kids values such as courage, and integrity, and how to rise above a sex-crazed culture that threatens their futures doesn’t just come from having serious chats – it also comes from having wacky fun on a family road trip or from the simple act of eating together on a regular basis.

My colleagues at The Heritage Foundation have combed through massive amounts of social science research from peer-reviewed journals and found that kids whose parents spend time with them are less likely to smoke, abuse drugs, drink or engage in sex. You can peruse the research yourself for free at www.familydatabase.org. Heritage researchers have also found that the best place for men, women and children is in a loving home environment. (This research, and more, is available at no charge on www.heritage.org.)

Our instincts tell us that individuals who live in loving families that spend time together make for better individuals – but how many of us actually live like we believe it? How many moms and dads have forgotten that what kids really want isn’t another television or more “stuff.” What they really want – and need – is time with you.

The trips don’t have to be expensive or filled with endless planned activities and tours, and the meals don’t have to be fancy. They just have to be. Whether it’s taking the time for a walk in the park, a picnic, biking, or doing something a bit more unconventional like providing the perfect environment for apple-bomb wars, you’ll be instilling in your children loving memories, values and a sense of security. And, like anytime you give such blessings to others, you’ll end up feeling pretty blessed yourself.

Rebecca Hagelin is a vice president of The Heritage Foundation, a Townhall.com member group.

Chapter Five: Taking On Appropriate Responsibility

2004-10-14T09:38:00.000-07:00

Book: Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions
Chapter Five – Taking On Appropriate Responsibility

This is a tremendous chapter that all parents of children should read. In this chapter, Barna give several ideas, thoughts and ways that you and your family can teach spiritual truths to children.

Barna begins be telling us, “Our (Barna’s) national survey shows that while more than 4 out of 5 parents (85%) believe they have the primary responsibility for the moral and spiritual development of their children, more than two out of three of them abdicate that responsibility to the church.” pg 78

Barna states there are two major reasons for this behavior. First, parents are merely following the precedent that was set for them. They are raising their children the way that they were raised themselves. Secondly, most churchgoing parents are neither spiritually mature nor spiritually inclined and there for do not have a sense of urgency or necessity about raising their kids to be spiritual champions.

Personally, while I have found both of these to be true, I believe there is a third reason. It is hard, inconvenient, and incredibly tedious WORK – and we are too busy or lazy to really worry about it. We believe that if we drop them off at church, and “get them saved,” that everything will work out alright.

I think this would be a good place to ask for your comments on why you think this is true.

Barna writes, “When a church – intentionally or not – assumes a families responsibility in the arena of spiritually nurturing children, if fosters an unhealthy dependence upon the church to relieve the family of its biblical responsibility.” pg 81

God’s plan is for families to lead in the provision of spiritual development for their children.

Parents should provide the primary spiritual training of children. Deut. 1:31; 6:4-0; 11:18-21; 21:28-19; Psa. 78:5-8; Eph. 6:4.
The purpose of spiritual training is to instill a passion to love, obey and serve God. Matt. 10:37; 12:48-50; 1 Tim. 4:7; 2 Tim 3:15-17.
Parents must start the spiritual training of children when they are young. Isa. 7:15; Acts 26:4
Worshipping God is one of a believer’s most significant responsibilities. Deut. 16:11; 29:18; 1 Sam 1:19.
Spiritual development is a lifelong, continual process. Deut. 6:7; 11:19; Prov. 22:6
Part of the parental responsibility is to introduce appropriate discipline into children’s lives and to avoid pampering them. Prov. 3:11-12; 13:1; 19:18; 23:12-14; 29:15-17; Col. 3:20
Parents are called to introduce their children to appropriate behavior, as modeled by the church’s patriarchs and saints. Num. 18:11; Deut. 15:20; 16:11
Spiritual transformation requires us to rely upon God’s grace and power; we much therefore pray for the child we seek to impact for God. 1 Sam 1:10-16; 2 Sam 12:16; Lam. 2:19
The basis for spiritual training is the Bible Prov. 30:5; Matt 4:4; 21:16; Rom 15:3-4; 2 Tim 3:15
The family will grow in spiritual maturity as it serves God and people as a family unit Gen 7-9; Exod 27:21-30:30; Josh 24:15
Young people will retain childish perspectives and reasoning unless their parents help them grow beyond such limited thinking. Prov. 17:21; 1 Cor 13:11
Parents are encouraged to work in tandem with reliable spiritual partners – such as the church – but should be sure those partners are committed to the things of God. 1 Sam 1:27-28; 3:1-10; Rom 14:19; Eph 4:11-13
The worldview of children should be shaped after the worldview of the parents. Luke 6:40
The father is charged with passing on the spiritual blessing to the children. Gen. 27; 2 Sam. 6:20; 1 Chron. 16:43
Before God will hand over great spiritual responsibility to an adult who has children, the parent must give proof of being a dedicated and effective parent. 1 Tim 3:4-5, 12

Wow ...... Anyone esle feel inadeuate to the task?

Barna lists several ways and ideas that will help parent raise spiritual champions. I found this section to be pretty superficial – but I think it was intended to be so. I think parents should study their children – look and find what the best is method to communicate biblical truths to their children. Each child is different. Each learns differently. There is no “one” right way for everyone. Amazingly enough – God tells us what He wants us to teach – and gives great freedom in how to teach it.

I do like what Barna states in one section about how a child responds to a parent who is acting in a hypocrital way. “When an inconsistency is identified, a child is prone to do two things: 1) ignore the instruction itself and 2) conclude that there is no specific command that they must obey.” pg 85

The list of “tools” Barna suggests are: Behavior Modeling; Formal Instruction; Reading; Creative Applications (journaling – diaries); Personal Experiences; Discipline; and a Combination of these methods.

There was a tremendous amount of information in this chapter – it covered the responsibility of the parents toward their children. It will be interesting to see how Barna develops the church’s responsibility in this task. That is the next chapter.

Chapter Four: What Kids Need

2004-10-10T17:12:00.000-07:00

Book: Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions
Chapter Four: What Kids Need

Barna states that human development is a complex mixture of growth in five core areas: the moral, spiritual, physical, emotional and intellectual dimensions of life. He contends that the basis of each one of these areas in one's spiritual foundation.

He illustrates by writing, "To distinguish right from wrong, we need to establish whether morals are absolute or situational - that is, whether they are always the same, regardless of the situation, or whether they are determined according to circumstances. In order to arrive at that point of decision, we must identify the source of our moral standards. Most Americans contend that morals are relative because they are based upon a person’s feelings, experiences, personal philosophy or personal needs. Relatively few Americans - barely 25% say there is an absolute moral standard and that it is contained in the Bible." pg 53

I have found in my experience that it is incredibly enlightening to ask a person what they base their choices on ... or how do they determine what is right or wrong. Quite honestly, many people just stare blankly back at you -- really not know how to respond. Most of the time, people muddle through life doing what is convenient - letting ease determine what is right or wrong. Others let the law determine what is right or wrong -- but just because something is legal does not make it right -- i.e. abortion, drunkenness, and illicit sex. Some let pragmatism be the determining factor in their decisions -- I'll do whatever I can to get what I want.

Amazingly, most adults I have asked this question to usually have not taken time to think about what determines right and wrong in their life. This question is vital to a follower of Christ to determine. It is God and His Word that is the determining factor of what is right and wrong.

Banra writes, "The bottom line is that a person's moral foundation is either based on Christian Principles and thus drawn from God's Word, or it is based on worldly perspectives." pg 53

Barna then takes several pages and discusses what influences children and when. Basically, the younger the child - the more influence parents and authority will have on their lives. As the move into adolescence, the less influence parents and authority will have and the more the media (music, movies, TV, internet) will have on their lives.

Barna list four cornerstones for helping children build a solid biblical foundation:

The Bible
A Commanding Knowledge of Biblical Content
The Identification of Organizing Principles
A Burning Desire to Obey God

He also listed seven questions that we should make sure we discuss from a biblical perspective with our children as they mature. They are the basis for a solid and sound biblical world perspective.

Does God Exist?
What is the character and nature of God?
How and why was the world created?
What is the nature and purpose of humanity?
What happens after we die of earth?
What spiritual authorities exist?
What is truth?

You say this doesn't apply to your 6 year old - but at some point your 6 year old will walk into a High School Science Class and be confronted with differing views on these questions. Views that ridicule God and His Word. The question is, Who is preparing your child for that day?

That is a primary responsibility of the parents to train up their children with this view.

By the way - Barna states, "By the age of nine, most of the moral and spiritual foundations of a child are in place." pg 58

Don't wait too long. The longer you wait, the more difficult it becomes.

Chapter Three: Why Kids Matter

2004-10-07T20:31:00.000-07:00

Book: Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions Chapter Three - Why Kids Matter In this chapter, Barna sets for his argument as to why kids should be a priority in a church's ministry. His first argument is the children matter to God.

Children are a gift from God
Adults receive special blessings through their children
Children are desirable
Children need to be taught how to think and act in relation to God and His ways
To have a fruitful relationship with God, children must be taught to obey Him
Children as so valuable to God that He commands us to protect them
God wants to have a genuine relationship with His children
God enjoys the nature and personality of children.

Completing his argument is the statement, "If children matter this much to God, then they should matter as much to us too." pg 45 Personally, I have never worked at or attended a church that would so brazenly say that children's ministry didn't matter. However, I think was Barna is arguing for is that children should be looked at more as a primary area of ministry rather than seeing it as taking care of the children while mom and dad are learning about God. Reflections of this thinking could be seen in the quality of what we offer our children as well as the funding and resources we commit to a children's ministry.

Barna makes a compelling augment, "Anyone who wishes to have significant influence on the development of a person's moral and spiritual foundations had better exert that influence while the person is still open-minded and impressionable -- in other words, while the person is till young. By waiting until a person is in his or her late adolescent or teenage years, the nature of influential attempts must be significantly different, because the spiritual foundation has already been formed and integrated into a person's life." pg 47

He follows this up with an interesting thought, "You simply cannot raise a child to be a compliant workhorse and then expect him or her to turnaround and become a majestic thoroughbred when he or she is older." pg 49

In closing this chapter, Barna states the he believes the spiritual battlefront today is found in the minds, hearts and souls of our children. pg 50 At this point, Barna has made a compelling case for a either an evaluation or reevaluation of any churches ministry to children. He has convinced me that it must be a priority -- not merely an afterthought. But the question I believe -- I hope -- he will answer in the subsequent chapters is how this ministry should look -- what this ministry should contain -- and what should be the objectives of a children's ministry.

I have been challenged personally to not look at children's ministry simply as an afterthought - but rather an intentional ministry of investment that may pay great dividends far into future generations.

Book Review: The Prisoner in the Third Cell

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After reading Edwards book, "A Tale of Three Kings," I ordered "The Prisoner in the Third Cell" from Amazon. In this dramatic story, John the Baptist, imprisoned by Herod and awaiting death, struggles to understand a Lord who did not live up his expectations.

Again, Edward does an amazing job a filling in the biblical narrative with what might have happened. One cannot forget that it is speculation, but Edwards offers tremendous insights to life and trials of John the Baptist.

A thread that winds through the book is when God doesn't meet your expectations. Edwards ponders what might have been going through the mind of people whom Jesus did not heal - the Bible is clear - many were healed, but not all. What do you do with a God who does not live up to your expectations?

Edwards also ponders what John the Baptist's view of Jesus might have been. The stark desert dwelling preacher preaching repentance paving the way for the Messiah who laughed, ate with sinners and went to parties. Interesting insights into what might have been.

I would recommend this book to those whom have struggled when God didn't meet their perceived needs. Another book that more thoroughly deals with this subject is Phillip Yancey's Disappointment with God.

Just for the record, I have ordered more of Edwards Books and will review them as I read them. They are a quick read - but give thoughts that linger with you, especially in the quietness of a reflective heart.

Chapter Two - Spiritual Health of Children

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Book: Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions

Chapter Two - The Spiritual Health of Our Children

Barna states that every dimension of a person’s experience hinges on his or her moral and spiritual condition. I have found this to be true. Although man external factors can contribute (i.e. health, wealth, etc.) ones spiritual condition allows for a proper perspective in each stage of life. Without seeing life from a proper biblical perspective one cannot find purpose or true lasting joy in any strata or stage in life. How people view God and His role in their lives determines how the handle the cards dealt to them.

Barna then states, “We can strive to give our youngsters all the advantages the world has to offer, and motivate them to make the most of available opportunities and resources; but unless their spiritual life is prioritized and nurtured, the will miss out on much of the meaning, purpose and joy of life.” pg 29

Barna goes on to defend that all decisions are spiritually based. “Every choice we make is ultimately a spiritual decision. No matter what issue or challenge we face, our decision comes down to what we believe is right or wrong, which is based squarely on our sense of truth and purpose. Our perspective on such matters comes from our spiritual beliefs, since our notions of meaning, purpose, truth, value, integrity, morality and ethics all stem from our ideas about the ultimate determinate of life.” pg 30

When I read that, I wished that the moderator of the Presidential and Vice-Presidential debates would ask each candidate the following question, “What criteria determines what is right and wrong in your life?” I think there may be no more telling question to a person’s behavior and character than the true answer to that question.

In the next section, Barna lists many statistics about children and their understanding of spiritual truths. One statistic seemed to sum up all of his findings. Just 4% of children would classify themselves as one who strongly affirmed the accuracy of all biblical teachings, the personal responsibility to share their faith in Christ with non-believers, the centrality of faith in a person’s life, the inability to attain eternal salvation except through the grace of God through Jesus Christ’s death and resurrection, the nature of God as the creator and sustainer of all that exists, the existence of Satan as a real being, not merely a symbol of evil. pg 33

I have to grin when I read that. I wondered how many adults would be classified as evangelical by answering questions on such a litany of questions.

Amazingly, Barna answers question on the next page. Specifically 4% of 13 years olds were evangelicals compared to just 6% of adults. In other words, by the age of 13, your spiritual identity is largely set in place. pg 34

WOW – look at that again. By the age of 13, ones spiritual identity is largely set in place.

Ponder that for a second. How important does that make effective children’s ministry at Bayshore? At your church? In our homes?

The rest of the chapter is anti-climatic. Barna asks the same questions as listed above and uses statistics to show that most churches are short-changing children’s ministry at their church.

Again - By the age of 13, ones spiritual identity is largely set in place.

I look forward to your comments on this section. Is this what you have found to be true in your own children?

Book Review: A Tale of Three Kings

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A Tale of Three Kings by Gene Edwards.

More Information on book click here

Short Description: Those facing the pain and brokenness that result from unfair treatment by other believers will be encouraged by this powerful story of David, Saul, and Absalom.

I read this incredible book in one setting. It deals with authority - using David, Saul and Absalom as examples. As each reader goes through this book, they will find they have a little of each of these men in them.

How should you respond when you are targeted by someone who is abusing their power or position? The author asks the question speaking about David, "What do you do when someone throws a spear at you?" The author also wrestles with the question, "How can you tell if your king (leader, pastor, boss) is the Lord's annointed?"

Speaking of Saul, "Keep in mind that some who have been given the very power of God have raised armies, defeated the enemy, brought forth might works of God, preached and prophesied with unparalleled power and elquence ... and thrown spears, and hated people, and attacked others, and plotted to kill, and prophesied naked, and even consulted witches."

This is a must read for any leader. At times, we will be faced with some of the same decisions wrestled with in this book. If you are looking for easy answers - this is not the book for you. However, if you are looking for peircing questions that cut to your own motives, then this book can be used by the Spirit of God to move your heart.

After you read this book - leave your thoughts in the comments below. I welcome them and would enjoy responding.

Chapter One - The State of American Children

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Chapter 1 – The State of American Children

This chapter is filled with statistics that tell us about American children. Barna defines children as 5-12 year olds. This group, some 31 million strong, represents nearly half of the under 18 year olds in the country. Pg 18.

I like Barna’s reasoning when he states, “If you want to shape a person’s life-whether you are most concerned about their moral, spiritual, physical, intellectual, emotional or economic development—it is during these crucial eight years that lifelong habits, values, beliefs and attributes are formed.” Pg. 18

Barna states, “Our children will define the future, which makes them our most significant and enduring legacy. After all, God never told His followers to take over the world through force or intelligence. He simply told us to have children and then raise them to honor God in all that they do.” Pg 18

A scripture reference could be: Deuteronomy 6:4-9 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. [5] Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. [6] These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. [7] Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. [8] Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. [9] Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Barna then lists the Four Dimensions of Our Children’s Well-Being and fill each section with statistics which are enlightening. They are Educational Achievement and Intellectual Development; Health and Physical Development; Economic State; and Emotional and Behavioral Development.

One of the most startling statistics was the one out of three babies born in the United States are born to an unmarried woman. Additionally, one out of four presently lives with a single parent. Pg 22-23

Those statistics astounded me. I was staggered by that number.

Those who are commenting on this study—Do you find these numbers to be true in your areas of influence? Are there any school teachers who find these statistics valid among your students? Please leave comments on how it effects you interaction with the student’s parent.

Chapter One paints a picture of the lives and culture of the children he implores both the church and family to impact.

Introduction - Children into Spiritual Champions

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Introduction

Many times people skip the Introduction of a book and cut right to the first chapter. It would be a mistake to do this in any book the George Barna writes. In his Introduction he tells what his methodology was in gathering data and coming to the conclusions he includes in his book. That is vital – for if his methodology is flawed – then there is a good chance his conclusions will be also.

“After considerable observation, discussion, prayer and reflection, I conduct primary research and analyze the results. Armed with the data, I seek confirmation of my interpretations through the real-world ministry experiences of churches and individuals. Confident that there is something valid to present, I then share the results through the written word.” Pg. 13

Barna then lists what his Five Goals are in writing this book.

Reach agreement.
See spiritual development as necessary.
Motivate to action.
Facilitate the appropriate linkage.
See what it looks like.

Under his first goal – his tell us what his thesis is for the book, “If you want your life to count for God’s Kingdom, there are many viable ways to use your gifts, talents and resources. However, if you want to have the greatest possible impact (i.e., to achieve a lasting legacy of spiritual dividends), then consider employing those resources to ministry to young people.” Pg. 14

I also like what he says under his fourth goal: “The local church is crucial in this process, but a child’s family is central. Gaining a proper perspective on the partnership between parents and church in the mutual effort to raise God-loving and God-fearing children is paramount.” Pg. 14

At this point, he has clearly and concisely set out his methodology and his goals for writing this book.

My goals in reading this book are:

Am I doing all I can as a Father to raise Joseph and Nathan as Spiritual Champions?
What can Bayshore do to increase our effectiveness in this area?
How can we as a church partner will parents in increasing our effectiveness?

At this point – what are you thoughts and/or goals in reading this book?

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This is the first book that I will start with. I will post my first comments on Monday, October 4th - and then welcome any comments. This can be purchased at any major bookstore or from Amazon.com at this link. I hope you join me on this journey!

Getting Started - Read This First

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Greetings. This is an experiment that anyone is welcomed to participate in. Every few weeks there will be a book selected. Chapter by chapter, I will post my thoughts, observations, questions, links to other helpful material, etc. What will make this most enlightening though is that you - any one that chooses to - can post their thoughts, insights and ask questions also. We also will be able to respond to each other's posts and thoughts. Each question or comment will be posted under the "comment" section of each post. Simply click on the "Comment" and you will be able to read and respond to the post or any previous comment.

Please understand - there is a great freedom on a blog such as this - however, some guidelines must be understood. There will be no profanity, name calling, or belittling of people on this site. Since I am the one "moderating" the conversation, I will warn once - and ban if necessary. In addition, this is not a "professional web site" for advice. I, nor the church I work with, Bayshore Baptist Church, can be held responsible for the content of this site.

Now with all that out of the way, let's get this experiment started.

Songs

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